It’s not all relative.
There is absolute truth.
Truth is not fluid. There’s no my truth and your truth. “Truth is reality from God’s perspective.” – Joyce Myer The cliché “there’s his/her side, your side and then there is the truth.” Implies that no one tells the truth. I know I can have an accurate understanding of reality and can honestly recount what happened. The cliché also Implies there is a judge of what the truth actually is. The Bible actually sets this up and our justice system is based on it. The reason we need a judge to determine what the truth is not because no one tells the truth, but because there are liars. People who only care about furthering their agenda. Reality doesn’t matter. Truth is not valued by them. Only what they can convince others of to get what they want. They aren’t trying to problem solve. They don’t care about getting to the bottom/root of a matter. They aren’t interested in peace, cooperation, mediation. They just stay the course for what they want using anything and everything to be king of the hill. They don’t want justice they don’t want to be held accountable. They don’t take responsibility for their actions.
Satan has been twisting God’s word since before he got thrown down out of heaven. Jesus is the truth and Satan is the father of lies. Godless people are liars. John 8:44 NASB1995 [44] You are of your father the devil, and you want to do the desires of your father. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth because there is no truth in him. Whenever he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own nature, for he is a liar and the father of lies.
People are so easily deceived. Deceived by what tickles their ears. Deceived by permission to enjoy a sense of moral superiority. Deceived by thinking you are helping/saving the abuser playing the victim. We need to have wisdom and discernment because Satan is cunning Genesis 3:1. He appears as an angel of light. 2 Corinthians 11:14 You will know them by their fruits. Matthew 7:15-20 In sharing with you their woe of virtuous victimhood are they kind, patient, is it envious, boastful, is it keeping a record of wrongs, is it prideful, dishonoring to the other person, is self-seeking?
Is it even necessary to tell you if their goal/agenda is to resolve the problem? Are you really doing any justice by getting involved? Liars know that fools believe the first story they hear, so deceivers aggressively, intrusively, recklessly even to them being discovered as a charlatan will make sure everyone around will hear what the liar wants them to believe.
Matthew 18:15-17 NASB1995
[15] “If your brother sins , go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. [16] But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every fact may be confirmed. [17] If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.
You cannot know what the truth is by listening to one side. By listening you are being asked to judge. Are you fair and impartial? Have you collected all evidence? Have you listened to both sides? Probably not. Proverbs 18:17 NASB1995[17] The first to plead his case seems right, Until another comes and examines him. When I was first starting out as a therapist. I was meeting with a family of a child with the mother who had to share custody with the horrible father and his awful new wife. I didn’t particularly like the mother but I didn’t want to have to speak to this awful father. I was discussing it in supervision and my supervisor said we don’t have the privilege to not speak to both parents and by next supervision I had better of met with him. So I fearfully made an appointment to meet with the horrible father and step mother. The man was timid, exhausted, loved his daughter and married to the same woman but younger. At next supervision she asked well, was he a horrible, scary man as the wife said? No. My supervisor said that is why you always have to meet with both because one will say really terrible things so that you won’t want to speak to the other and will believe whatever they say is the story. Lesson for life.